Dating is difficult at any age, but it can be particularly tough to navigate romantic relationships in high school or college. If you feel that your boyfriend is not paying attention or is slipping away then you need to take action and get it back! Out of all the guys and girls we spoke to these were the top 11 tips on how to get your boyfriends attention back:
1. Be happy with yourself
First and foremost, make sure you’re happy with yourself. Did you know that happiness is like a magnet? Naturally, we tend to gravitate toward happy, positive individuals. Being happy with yourself will make your boyfriend notice you and want to be close to you to share the happiness.
2. Don’t be jealous
If your boyfriend’s attention is diminishing, the first thing that might come to your mind is that he’s seeing another girl. Being jealous, however, is just not pretty and is an indicator of low self-esteem. So, don’t obsess over what he’s been up to and who he’s been meeting-this will only exhaust you and drive your boyfriend further away.
3. Don’t demand attention
Nothing scares off guys more than girls who make a scene, kick off a tantrum or demand undivided attention. Never quarrel or beg your boyfriend or he’ll start to think that you’re a drama queen. The trick is to get your boyfriends attention back without actually having to ask for it.
4. Make yourself scarce
Do not be too anxious to reply to his texts or answer his calls. When he asks you why you’re not answering immediately, politely pretend that you have been busy. Guys are attracted to girls they cannot have all the time but don’t over do it, just make yourself unavailable from time to time.
5. Humor him
Watch his favorite game and cheer when his favorite team scores. Although you might not actually give a damn about it, it will make him happy and it’s always nice to share a few interests. Who knows! You may be end up actually enjoying it. Even if you hate football, attend some matches with him and you might just end up loving it.
6. Dress nicely often
Take time to dress nicely from time to time. We all know that boys are visual beings and a girl who strives to look nice for her boyfriend gets noticed more often than not. Try to dress up every now and then, but be decent.
7. Don’t try too hard
If you try too hard it will be a sign of desperation, which isn’t attractive at all to guys. In the short-term, it can catch the attention of boys who are not good enough for you, boys who will take advantage and take you for granted. To catch your boyfriend’s attention, try less and get more of his attention.
8. Befriend his friends
One of the most valuable things to guys is their friends. If you can make friendships with your boyfriend’s friends, you’ll make him happy because he’ll know they already approve of you and that you’re perfect for him. However don’t go and do this behind his back, you should try and befriend his friends when your with him so he doesn’t get the wrong idea.
9. Surprise him
You can surprise him with a present or do something he likes. For example, if he likes food, cook for him a special meal. If he likes sports, theater or music, hand him tickets to a game or show. A nice surprise like this can help get your boyfriends attention, but don’t confuse surprising him with bribing him!
10. Be mysterious
Guys are attracted to girls who have an air of mystery around them. Make your boyfriend want to find out more about you. Make him curious by revealing a few details about yourself that’ll make him try to know you more. Talk about your hobbies and interests, but do not reveal all at once.
11. If necessary, leave him
If your boyfriend continues to ignore you no matter what you try, maybe it’s time to reassess your relationship with him. If he hasn’t been paying attention to you for a long time, maybe he just doesn’t like you anymore and wants to break up. If so, it’s best to move on with your life and find somebody who really loves you unconditionally.
Guys are usually more oblivious and less verbal than girls. If he doesn’t seem to pay attention to you, it does not mean he doesn’t love you anymore. If you have been seeing each other for a while, and you feel that he’s ignoring you, it might be a good idea to use the advice above to reignite your relationship if you think it is worth another shot.